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Disconnect, Unplug, Reset

August 24, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

Disconnected, Unplugged and Reset

Do you have trouble with your awful memories?   I am amused when I meet a divorcee who delights in sharing their awful experience during the relationship. The divorce did not disconnect!

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I had some of those experiences.  Can’t remember when just now, because I disconnected.

When I plugged in again, the memories were still there but I chose to rewrite the story, embracing the good times!  I disconnected, Unplugged and reset.

Adoption – Family Disconnect

Three years ago on Mothers day, my half sister called and the highlight of the conversation was she said she wasn’t sure I belonged to her Dad.  Since I had struggled with my identity since I was 7,  in anger and disappointment I just deleted her.

I wrote her off,  disconnected, unplugged and never intended to reset.

Fast forward three years and on Mothers day I briefly remembered that call, where I was and the feelings.  I had not spoken with her since the call. Those memories were uninvited and not welcome, so it was a brief stay.

Imagine my flash back of feelings when the phone rang and her identity popped up.  I hesitated then decided I should answer.  No longer disconnected, we were plugged in.

She was calling me at the request of her twin brother, my half brother and the news was shocking.

He had been ill for 2 weeks and the diagnosis was 4th stage cancer.  There was no cure.

He requested her to make calls to relatives and to request prayer. She said I was the first person he asked her to call.  During the next two weeks, I dealt with a flood of unpleasant memories from her, none of which I expressed.   I also felt conflicting feelings of compassion for her. After all he was her twin. He was my brother and in fact she was my half sister.

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There was a storm of Love from Him!  We talked 3 times during his hospital stay and covered many wonderful memories.  His illness lasted 4 weeks and he passed on.

During this time, he shared in no uncertain terms with his adult children and those around him that I was and always had been his little sister.  For the first time ever, I was named in an obituary and it listed me as a sister.  As a family, he pushed the reset button!

For three years I unplugged. As children, we did not live in the same house. For me, this time of grief and reconnecting was healing.  I am so excited that the door of love is open with his twin sister – my sister.

Illustrate this with your computer.  When you troubleshoot, the first thing you do is disconnect from the electricity.

Our thoughts are like electrical currents that feed our emotions and escalate to the boiling temperature. If we can disconnect  and not react to the situation, we may avoid an explosion. I did.  In time, we may have the opportunity to rewrite the story.

What happens when you plug the computer back in?  It is connected to the power source that brings it to life…Now, push the on button to activate the computer.

Oh, this little machine has a memory and you can connect on the problem file and bring it all to life. You can Delete that file.  Choose love and kindness to rewrite the file and fill with some good memories.

These are two examples in my life where I  unplugged.

An abandoned baby, eventually adopted, a love seeker collecting marriage and divorce certificates, I attended the school of hard knocks to learn about disconnecting!  It’s the best lesson ever.

In my opinion unplugging isn’t just pretending it didn’t happen.  It’s choosing to respond to a situation instead of reacting.  Given time, if the situation is close to the heart, a time will come to reconnect and reset.

God tells us to Forgive.   Sometimes a situation causes much emotional hurt and we realize Forgiveness is an Action not a feeling.  Disconnecting is also an action, not necessarily a feeling.

Did my desire to belong go away just because a half sister had made it clear she did not want me in her space as a half sister?  No.  For weeks after the phone call, I would declare  out loud …I forgive.

Oh, then I heard a cute little saying, I forgave you and now I will forget you.   So, that’s how I disconnected in this situation.  I thought it was permanent.

That is not how God operates.  He forgives and forgets our actions not us. If we ask for wisdom, sometimes God reveals the other side of the story and let’s us feel compassion.

This is a Sunday post…I listened to our minister online today.  He taught about Daniel.  Daniel did what was right.  I know when we do what is right, God takes care of the rest.  We are not responsible for the actions of others only our response.

There is an additional healing in my soul today.  I loved my brother.  He wasn’t my half brother, he was and is my brother.  My story of adoption, rejection and searching for the unknown, spans over many years and many mistakes.  I pray to live in God’s favor and wisdom for the remaining days here.

The wrong current can ruin an appliance,  We are like an appliance in God’s hands.  Sometimes we overload, crash and burn, but He can put us together again.

Do you love me?   Do you love me?  Oh my God says, ” Yes, I love you.”

Go Forth and Prosper,

Molinda Sue

I love July

July 2, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

Do you love July?

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I love July!  Good things always happen in July. Actually, I get inspiration smelling the fresh air and my heart races with the noise of the fireworks.  For me. many happy memories are stored in my heart.

In our neighborhood, fireworks are loud.

What am I doing outside of my comfort zone this week?

There is a new apartment complex about 7 miles from my sons house.  In the past month they have filled 70 apartments.  It seemed sad for all the families and social distancing in place.

So, I prepared an invitation. Click this link to see the invitation:   Zoom-Party 2

I would like to continue to connect and host meetings.  For this one I have a content outline, and will have time for people to introduce themselves, share their apartment number and one amazing thing about their life.

In the future I plan to have different venues featured and include an introduction to many things in the community.

Party Time

The party will take place tomorrow evening at 6:30 pm and will last until 7:10! Attendance is by invitation only.

So far, 6 people are attending.  This is my first time to host a zoom room and I want you to know I am excited.  Our world and visitation rights are changing.  I, for one, will attempt to make the best of it!

Will let you know how much fun we have.

Loving the 4th,

Molinda Sue

Hello July, I love you.

July 2, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

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Hello July!  I love you July.  I love July 4th!  I look forward to this  weekend filled with good food, fireworks, laughter and family. I give thanks for my health, for the opportunities to improve life and grateful for the love of family.

Our year is half over.  Although, I have accomplished some goals, the big rocks are out of the jar and nothing has been done.  My foot is a big problem and must be improved.  Will that improvement happen in Billings or in Tennessee?

Am I happy and healthy today?  Yes and no. I scheduled an appointment with a highly recommended surgeon for an additional opinion regarding my foot.  The acquired deformity gets worse each day.

 My appointment with the surgeon is  Tuesday, July 7th.  His opinion will be the third one.  It may confirm what two other Doctors have said and lead me back to the South for the surgery. It may contain a message of hope and success here.

I have an appointment scheduled at Duke in North Carolina for August 2nd.  The happy news is I am being proactive to search for help!  God tells us to seek and we shall find.

Where would I stay if I have surgery here?  I want to return to full time in Real Estate.  Some important choices are visible.

There is an apartment in Billings that would be a perfect recovery space.  It is new, affordable,and  7 minutes from my son’s home.  I stopped by there today and let the manager know it will be next Wednesday when I can confirm or decline her offer.

Preparing to Go Home to Tennessee

Next, I completed an online class for  Real Estate in Tennessee.  In the month of June I did 15 continuing education hours and will do 6 more in the next week. My heart beats with Joy when I think of being home in Tennessee and helping others find home.

One More Incident for today

With scattered thoughts stretching from the East to the West, I drove toward my Sons house. On the way, I received a call from Kentucky.  My Brother is listed in critical care in the University of Kentucky Medical Center.

He has stage 4 Cancer.  I want to see him! The onset appeared to be sudden and the cancer is very aggressive.

This week will continue to be busy.  Several things must be completed within the next two weeks in preparation for the trip to Tennessee or staying here. Prayers for my brother and the desire to see him tops the list.

Finally The Day’s Activities End…

The day wasn’t over.  I stopped at the Wells Fargo ATM and it said:  “You haven’t finished your last transaction, would you like to continue?”  I pushed No…and the previous customers card popped half way out.  I waited..and the ATM read:  Please remove your card or it will return to the ATM in 20 seconds.  I waited and the ATM sucked it up!

I had almost finished my transaction when a cool looking guy on a motorcycle whirled up beside my car.  I asked him if he had visited this ATM in the last few minutes.  He was the Owner of that Card!  He laughed and said, no problem I will come by tomorrow and get another one.

Prayers appreciated.

Warm regards,

Molinda Sue

A Street Without Holes

May 5, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

 

A Street Without Holes  –  Regret lives in a hole.

 I am looking for different avenues and opportunities to share with friends.

Happy Healthy Monday…

Today, I have time with my precious Granddaughter .We will dance, exercise, play music and laugh.

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Kris, my son, will cook a special meal for dinner tonight. She is my priority today and I am grateful to be in her space during this dime of social distance.

Physical Therapy

I really miss going to Physical therapy.  With the structured environment it was easy to do what I was asked . Now, I must ask myself: “What next?”

My answer is exercise is an essential part of my quality of life. Today I will exercise, check with Deanna for the online Pilates and have fun.  Oh, did I mention there is fun on this new Street?

I almost have a routine for each week day that I am comfortable completing.  The morning begins with prayer, meditation, documenting three things I am thankful for, time with God and a quick review of my day.  Next, write and write. If I don’t count and document my words,  they fall in a hole.  I discovered I need structure and a time frame assigned to important tasks.

So…Mornings are my best time, therefore, I will devote 45 minutes each morning from 10:30 a.m. until 11:15 for Physical Therapy. I have 5 exercises for each day and do two sets of each.

Just put it on my Calendar and emotionally, it creates a commitment!  Now that some things have opened up again  in Billings I can add a weekly visit to the Chiropractor.  I went last year and loved the care I received.

What is missing?  No, who is missing?  You are missing.   What are you doing?  I want to hear from you.  Let’s Here’s to your good Health and Let’s

Goforth and Prosper,

Molinda Sue

Holes – 5 Chapters of Life

April 5, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

Five Short Chapters of Life

Holes I Fell In

Don’t fall!

There’s a Big hole in the road where I walk in our neighborhood..  When I walk, I must avoid it or

I may fall.  Rural roads instead of streets go in front of the homes. This morning I will walk down the road.

The unpaved roads lend a country atmosphere.

 

I recall living  on a street named Tennessee Avenue. My best friend lived at the other end of town.

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We would start walking and meet in the middle.  Most days in the spring, there would be a soft, sweet smelling rain falling.  My umbrella covered me. I walked.

Now, staying safe at home is a good thing.  However, I remember the afternoon walks, feeling the breeze, hear the light touch of rain hitting my umbrella and splashing  water.  Pleasant memories from childhood.  Many roads have been before me since then.

Recently, My son read the following poem to me. I wish I had a recording of him reading it. As he read, my life seemed to flash before me.  Four times I have fallen in a hole!

The second best reading of the poem I will share with you today, given by Wayne Dyer.

 

Reading from: Autobiography in 5 Short Chapters by Portia Nelson

Identifying the Holes in Life

I heard the news day before yesterday.  I heard the news yesterday. The news today will be the same…..It’s the hole in the sidewalk.  Now is the time to take a different street.  Our responsibility is to chose the healthiest path, search our mind for activities to help others and be happy at home.

Prayer Helps In Troubled Times

Today, I have a choice of my route in life.  You do too. We have been informed the news will not change for the next month.  Over and over we hear the same instructions.  Choose your activities…then move on in the path to better things.

One of my sons called for urgent prayer last night.  I could not solve the problem. The problem became my hole.  I almost fell in.  Another Street came to mind.

I Walked Above it…focused my eyes on Jesus…He walked on water!  Surely, I could rise above the sinking feeling this situation caused in my being.  A feeling of hopelessness, out of control, visions of an awful end result.  How did I know there was a different mental street?

Memories of my Mom..She avoided the hole in the sidewalk, the hole in Life, the hole in her thoughts by falling to her Knees in Prayer. Memories of the one person on earth who loved me more than anyone else – My Mom  and following her example brings  me peace.

What Happens Now? 

Many, many times I have walked the street with the hole and more than four times I fell in. In business, I hit the peak of success and fell to the bottom. Coming to Billings, Montana for an extended stay avoided the street with the big hole. My ticket was purchased to return where I call home.   Over the period of two weeks, tragic news for our country and others unfolded.  My trip was Cancelled.  My plans lost in the deep hole. Everything changed.

Different Street, Chapter 5

Now, what am I doing on the other street?  I will,

Goforth and Prosper

Molinda Sue

 

Changes – Lifestyle Results

March 21, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

A Time for Change

Since the beginning of this year, I made changes.

I prayed.  . “I said God, I need to walk and talk and be productive or I need to clean cabins in Glory.  Have mercy on me and make a change in my life.”

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My faith was so weak, I presented the two choices. Following the prayer something bad happened. I thought my assignment may be to clean those cabins.

In November of 2019 I became very ill. I went to Urgent Care described my feelings and gave a suggestion for my health.  The NP disagreed, ordered a cat scan, antibiotics and a follow up visit in 3 days…..(Interesting Christ arose on the third day)

After 3 days, I felt better and kept my appointment and told her what I needed next.  She disagreed, prescribed more antibiotics, a bland diet, no stress and several visits to other doctors.  In addition to the other Doctors, she wanted me to return in 3 weeks for a follow up cat scan.  Now,  visits to other Doctors definitely were not on my radar.

I did go for the second cat scan. The results were much improved.

The last week of December I returned to the NP. She shared her suggestions…none were acceptable. I asked for physical therapy to enable me to move, walk and stand better. She wrote a prescription.

Results

I was blessed to choose the best Therapist ever.  Twice each week for 6 weeks I went for a treatment. We documented my progress. Improvement is in the 70 percent range!

For Lifestyle ChangeIt is so exciting to share these results with you.  Why did it take so long to discover this route?  I don’t know.  Each year the surgeon said I must have another surgery.  I guess I fully believed him and did not look for any other option.

My early morning routine includes a 30 minute work out Prescribed by the physical therapist. When making changes in your personal life, I believe you should start with Health.  This is where I started.  It’s an ongoing process and I am thankful for the beginnings.   Let’s

Go Forth and Prosper,

Molinda Sue

ShShShShSH, Be Quiet.

March 16, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

 Be Quiet, ShShShShSh

Lesson in Silence

My precious Aunt Malvie came to baby sit Ray. He was just a few months old. Malvie was from a family of 14 and she loved silence.  Oh, she talked a lot, but her voice was soft and pitched low.

Before he walked, before he talked, she carried him everywhere.   It was winter time and the gas stove with ceramic blocks was burning. He loved the bright light of the flame.

Aunt Malvie would snuggle him close, walk to the stove, hold his little hand, point his finger with hers and come so close to the enticing flame.  Puckering her lips she made this sound shshsh, followed by whispering, “ hot, hot”  and quickly withdrawing his finger. I was entertained by the funny little activity. Within a week or so  I watched him crawl to the stove…lunged to get him just as he pulled his little finger back and said his third word…..ht… pronounced with out the o…..

Aunt Malvie whispered a lot.  Frequently,  I could hear my Mother praying but  I had to pay close attention to hear Aunt Malvies’ Whispers.

Eighteen years old with a baby, I worked to pay for his formula and give Aunt Malvie a little money. We had simple food.  Soon it was apparent, I needed more. Business school seemed to be an answer. I attended about 3 months.

In our little town, business was a joke. Big money was made by the miners, I wasn’t married to one of them…and had no desire to become one. So I tucked my new knowledge in my head and dreamed…I wanted a business  and I would hire a bookkeeper.

Nine years later I entered the man’s world of Real Estate  at Camp LeJeune where my second husband was station. Tell you folks, for this little Mountain girl the move was a big leap.  I saw the ocean every day, the Colors at night on the base, met military wives who became sisters. We never knew from one day to the next if our husband may get orders to leave for temporary duty.  The assignment could be for 3 days, 3 months or a year.

I remembered Aunt Malvie’s habits…when she heard gossip, anger, faced uncertainty…she said Shshsh….be quiet.  Her lesson sings loud and clear today. Often we find solutions hidden in Silence.

Be Quiet, Listen.

There is a lot of noise around us now.  Fear is visual at the grocery stores with empty shelves, and people making a desperate run searching for items..  Fear is everywhere. People moving quickly to snag what they perceived to be a critical part of life….much like my friends piece of paper.  Oh, let me tell you about her paper.

My friend

Recently, I had lunch with a friend.  We were recalling  youth and survival on a tight budget.  She shared at one point they did not have any money.  A relative mailed them a check for $20.00.  They jumped into the car, rolled the windows down and started driving to the bank. The check lying on the dash board was sucked  right out the window by the wind.

They retraced their route and looked for the check…Found it and rejoiced. This friend of mine, really got the point. When in need, they received, lost and found their treasure.  When she retrieved the check she said: “Look what this little piece of paper did for us.  Our emotions shifted from desperation to joy…a little piece of paper ..not worth a penny but the written words on it made us happy.”

This morning, I remember my Mother, turning the pages of the Bible every morning, quietly reading Gods word and praying God would guide someone to come to Daddy’s garage. Then we would go to the bedroom window, raise it, and watch Daddy work.  One by one people stopped to get their car repaired.

He would fix the car, charge them a little fee…they paid with coins or a little piece of paper and sometimes put coins in my little piggy bank  was in the window sill. The little pieces of paper paid the bills, gave us money to share, bought food and stuff…but the paper wasn’t the real blessing.  The real blessings were Mothers prayers, Daddys skill and knowledge and customers who needed his help.

Your Challenge

Be still, be quiet, remember the noise is hot..heavy with desperate people. Close your ears withdraw from the fear.  Implement wisdom, not Fear.

Fear isn’t pretty to behold.  However it captures our attention.  Retreat.  Whisper a prayer.

This season too will pass. Fear will disappear, only to return in the future disguised in a different container.

During this season of potential illness, it’s time to take inventory of what is in your home.  Is it filled with the essentials for survival? Remember we need, food, clothing and shelter.  We only wear one outfit at a time, could survive with one great meal each day, and shelter providing safety.  Books to read, puzzles to do, pages to color, a journal to write in, provide so many fun opportunities.

Faith Not Fear

Yesterday, church was online. The pastors sermon was what happens after death. I love to hear him teach, drink in his wisdom and reassurance.  Click on the link if you want to hear.

My heart hurt. I thought of the times I missed service, casually thinking I will go next week. Now, next week is here and for a season, we must stay home.  When our crisis has past, I will appreciate the freedom to attend church, fellowship with the crowd without  fear imposed by an outside source.

My personal beliefs are instilled that God is in control of life and death.  We each have an appointment with death. For the days we wake up, have fun!  Enjoy the life and Breath, knowing it’s another day of journey .  Make it a good one!

Use the wisdom you have.  Withdraw from situations that may present a challenge to your health, wash your hands, say your prayers and have fun at home.

Speaking of fun, it’s a cold day in Montana…I am excited to be alive. Today will include music, and my 12 year old granddaughter.  For a few minutes last night, she was excited school would be out for 2 weeks. Now, we will plan other activities.  Any suggestions?

I don’t know about tomorrow

Starting my day while everyone is sleeping with this song!

Go Forth and Prosper,

Molinda Sue

My Super Tuesday

March 7, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

My Super Tuesday!

Big Sky greeted me with clouds this morning.  By mid-morning, the 25 mile per hour winds had blown the dark clouds away.

During the day the wind escalated to 49 miles per hour. Gee, if only I could work as fast as the clouds float.

I completed domestic chores, wrote in my group for 500 words, took a black and white picture for a challenge. Super little things accomplished made life better.

Time to Eat

Lunch time, my son and I visited a new restaurant in town, The Tippy Cow Cafe Primarily, they serve breakfast.  However, their Lunch was delicious. Fresh cod fish sandwich, a tasty salad, water and good company completed my mid-day.

Best of all, after the meal one of the owners sat down with me to visit for a few minutes.  On a scale of one to 10 I rate this place the best a full 10!The Tippy Cow Cafe is at Main Street and Airport Road, in the Heights. Soon I will follow up and enjoy their breakfast and in the evening stop in for a milk shake.

More Super Tuesday Tasks

I had a few items to shop for.  Then, I finished some important medical papers for someone very close to me.  Tomorrow, I will review them one last time and then mail to the appropriate agency.

Super Tuesday Business Agenda

Today’s big project is continuing the action plan to custom build a new home. This one isn’t for me, it’s a continuing process for a couple who want to build from the ground up. Some amenities for some physical challenges will be included.

What are the first steps to take if you want to build your dream home? Want a preview of their first information? Look for the Free release just for you next week.

Let’s go forth and prosper,

Molinda Sue

Happy Healthy Monday

February 18, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

My Happy Healthy Monday!

For the first time in 6 weeks, I missed the Physical Therapy appointment!  When the clock ran up to 10:45, I felt I had broken a promise to myself and guilt snowed massive drops on my emotions. Outside, snow drops were falling, with rain drops attached.

Looking at the beauty outside lifted my spirits.  My tired brain thought it was past time for attention.   So this Happy Healthy Monday, I have read most all day!  Magazines collected from December through this month, and a second reading of the book, “Our Better Angels.”

Reading excites me.  My little car doesn’t like to go in the snow, but I traveled to  places far and near as I read today.

My best reading today was  Our Better Angels by Jonathan Reckford. Jimmy Carter gave a foreword.  I will post a review on Good Reads later as this is a Favorite book,  keeper for inspiration and as a resource.

Book Completed This Week

Favorite Book

Later today, I saw where a Documentary for Jimmy Carter Rock and Roll President would be available in April.

Sometimes it’s time to drink in the silence, read the written word, give thanks for all the good.

My actions today made for a Happy Healthy Monday.

Evening shadows highlight icicles and send a chill through my body along with a feeling of joy and safety.

Not to let the day end without exercise, I finished a 45 minute workout!

Tell me about your Monday.  With what mindset do you enter a new week, new opportunities, learn something new to improve your health?

It is Gods will for us to prosper and be in good health.  Let’s

Goforth and Prosper,

Molinda Sue

Happy – Healthy Monday!

February 13, 2020 by Molinda Goforth Leave a Comment

My Happy & Healthy Monday

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Good Morning to you and thank you for traveling this journey with me!

It’s  February 10th, I have Physical Therapy at 10:45.

If only, I had not been so doubtful and so ashamed of my inability to walk, climb stairs or stand for more than 10 minutes, I would have filmed myself in action!

Progress includes the fact I can get into my son’s new truck.

Wednesday, I will film some of my activities. Look for them Monday.

As a result of the past 6 weeks in therapy,  I have a new pair of comfortable tennis shoes.  This summer I will wear some cute, beautiful and “love to be me”, dressy shoes.

Just for fun, here is a picture of my new shoes!  These shoes feature a reinforced guard around the heel for extra ankle support.

A Shoe That Works!

The gentleman at Time Out Sports  in Billings introduced me to these shoes.  I highly recommend this store.

Remember my post of I wore the wrong shoes?  The job rejection, his comment about my shoes really hurt and gradually led to the thinking, I can change this.

Wednesday includes another therapy session…..it’s getting close to the last.  Next, comes a required membership at a local gym.  How do you chose a gym?

Let’s Goforth & Prosper,

Molinda Sue

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